Everything&Nothing: A Collection of Thoughts

I wake up with something heavy that doesn’t have a name It sits there through the morning through the hours I trade for numbers that never seem to stretch far enough I do things the right way not for applause just because I don’t know how not to Still— the days pass like closed doors and I’m left wondering what any of it builds toward There’s a silence that grows when you start choosing carefully Less noise less chaos but also less voices less invitations less proof that you exist in anyone else’s day People talk about plans like sparks that never catch and I’ve learned some fires are only meant to feel warm for a second before they disappear I could learn the other way how to smile at the right time say the right things treat moments like transactions but something in me resists I don’t want to become someone who feels hollow just to feel included So I stay where I am trying showing up holding more than I say and sometimes it spills out anyway quietly where no one sees I d...

I wish I didn’t feel the way I feel about you. You think I chose this? You said you’re tired. Tired of men. Tired of relationships. I heard you. But do you think I woke up one day and decided yeah… let me fall for her today? No. It was the way you laugh. The way you hum when we play. The way your voice lifts when you get excited like the world just handed you something small and perfect. I love listening to you. Even when you say something goofy, even when you trip over your words— I already know what you mean. I already know you. So how do you think I feel? I don’t want this any more than you want me to have it. That’s the part that eats at me. Because I don’t want to pressure you. I don’t want you to feel cornered. All I want… is to care about you. To know you. To be there when you’re winning and when everything falls apart. When you’re excited, I feel it. When you’re hurting, I want to be there for it. Not to fix it. Just… to be there. And I’m not asking for promises. No...

I learned early how to lock my face into something unbreakable. Not because I was strong— but because the room only respected stone. So I became it. A statue with a pulse, a clenched jaw dressed up as discipline, a man-shaped container for everything I wasn’t allowed to spill. They said— don’t cry. don’t need. don’t reach. So I swallowed softness like it was contraband, hid it behind half-jokes and shrugs, buried it under “I’m good.” But I’m not. Sometimes I want to hug like the world isn’t watching. Sometimes I want to hold someone and not feel like I’m breaking character. Sometimes a song hits and I don’t want to explain why my chest feels like it’s caving in. Yeah— I liked Mulan. Still do. Yeah— I listened to NSYNC. Not as a joke. Not for anybody else. Just because I felt something. And that’s the part they don’t understand— feeling doesn’t make me less dangerous. It makes me real. You wanna test that? We can step outside. We can measure strength the old way— knuckles, b...

You’re right. I should apologize. It’s not like you showed up and signed some contract to be seen the way I see you. So yeah— I’m sorry. I’m sorry that somewhere between the hours, the conversations, the nothing moments that turned into something— I found you. Not just a person… but a good one. I’m sorry your personality doesn’t sit quietly in the background. I’m sorry it pulls. I’m sorry it makes me stop and think, what if… I’m sorry you became someone I could actually picture a life with— not the fantasy version, not the rushed version, but the slow-built, intentional kind that people swear doesn’t exist anymore. I’m sorry that when I wake up, you cross my mind like a habit I didn’t try to form. I’m sorry I care how your day went. I’m sorry I listen— really listen— like your words actually mean something. I’m sorry I respect the way your mind works, like it’s something worth studying instead of just passing through. I’m sorry your excitement became something I look forwar...

It’s after midnight. The kind of quiet that makes you think too much. I’m sitting here staring at the moon, and the only thing running through my head is this— did I already miss it? Because at 37, people love to remind you the odds don’t get better. Like there’s some invisible timer counting down on your life, and every year that passes, you’re just… less likely. And I hate that thought. But it sticks. Because I know what it feels like to have someone there. To wake up next to someone who actually gives a shit. To have those late-night conversations that don’t need a reason. And now it’s just… quiet. You try to tell yourself it’s temporary. That it’ll come around. But every time you meet someone, it’s the same story— not a match, not interested, or just playing games like any of this is a joke. And you start wondering if maybe that was it. That one chance. That one window. And now you’re just… here. Looking up at the same moon every night, thinking maybe there’s someone ou...

They hand you a title like it’s iron. Be a man. No instructions. Just penalties. Stand tall. But not too tall. Speak up. But don’t get loud. Hold your ground. But don’t make a scene. You learn quick— anger is dangerous unless it’s useful. violence is wrong unless it’s needed. silence is strength until it looks like weakness. They measure you with rulers that bend. “You’re not a real man if—” fill in the blank like a threat. Like a dare. Like a verdict already written. So you swallow it. The disrespect. The sideways comments. The quiet tests. You nod. You breathe. You calculate. Because one wrong move and suddenly— you’re not controlled, you’re a problem. But one right move at the wrong time? Still a problem. You become something else over time. Not soft. Not hard. Tempered. Like steel that’s been heated cooled heated again— until it forgets what it was before the fire. And still— somewhere in the noise— you’re asking a question no one answers: How the hell do I be everythin...