All’s Fair in Love and War: A Rant on “Securing the Bag” (For Both Genders)
Last night, I stumbled across this video of a young woman responding to a comment about white women getting married before they even graduate nursing school. She didn’t hold back—her take was that a man who proposes to a woman while she’s still in nursing school is just “securing the bag,” plain and simple. In other words, he’s locking down a future nurse’s paycheck while she’s still learning how to stick IVs in people’s arms. She went on to say that she knows all about these types of men because her coworkers complain about them constantly. One example? A coworker who could only take eight weeks of maternity leave because her husband doesn’t make enough to cover the bills. The implication: that dude married her for the money, not the love. Now, I’m not saying she’s wrong. I’m saying, let’s flip this scenario around for a second. Imagine a man making a video telling other men that women who accept marriage proposals while he’s in law school, med school, or on the brink of going pro i...