Double Standards and Bullsh!t
Her response to the comment was to say that a man who proposes to a woman while she is in nursing school, especially if she's just about to graduate, is looking to "secure the bag". She tells the viewers that these men have a plan and that plan is these soon-to-be, or would be, nurses.
She then goes on to tell her viewers that she knows about these men because she hears all of her co-workers complaining about them. She then goes on to give a few examples one such being that a co-worker of hers could only take 8 weeks of maternity leave because her husband doesn't make enough.
The video is below. You can view it on my Instagram page as a remixed reel.
Anyhow, the video got me to thinking about how well it would've gone over if a man was to say the exact same thing.
What if men were making videos telling other men that women who accept your marriage proposal while you're in law school, medical school, on a college ball team about to go pro, and any other situation in which a man could potentially secure large amounts of income was only looking to secure the bag?
Personally, I don't think that video would go over well at all because the way a lot of women see it, men are supposed to provide for women and I wouldn't have a problem with this concept if it were 1922, but it's not; it's 2023 and women proudly proclaim they're "boss bitches" for doing the exact same shit men have been doing for centuries: working full-time, paying rent, and having our own money.
I'd be okay with this mindset that men have to provide for women if 1 in 3 women weren't seeking out men for dates for the sole purpose of getting a free meal-- sometimes these women even try to bring their friends on a date and expect a man to pay for all of them under the guise of "safety". Then when he refuses he's broke or not worth a damn.
I'd be okay with this mindset if broke women didn't go to the club with zero dollars and zero cents in their bank account with a plan to have men they have zero interest in buying them drinks all night.
I'd be okay with this mindset if women weren't out here saying that men are transactional under one breath and then saying out loud that if a man isn't willing to pay for stuff for her child after going on a few dates then he ain't worth a damn under another.
I'd be okay with this mindset if women didn't see men as meal tickets or a key to a lifestyle they'd never achieve on their own.
Now, I'm not saying that there aren't men out there who don't the same shit women do. I know there's men out there, just like there are women out there, trying to lock down a relationship because of the high earnings potential, but if women want to play the game that way then I say it's fair game for men.
Not saying I'd ever do it, but at the end of the day if we're all equal then I see no foul play. How can I say it's okay for women to do it, but then turn around and chastise a man for doing? All's fair in love and war. Ain't that how that saying goes?
It doesn't matter whether you're a man or woman, you need to protect yourself from people who would only be with you because of your earning potential. This has always been a reality for men, but it's relatively new to women being that for a long time they weren't allow to have certain rights.
Hell, it wasn't even until 1974, when the Equal Credit Opportunity Act passed, that women were allowed to get their own bank accounts, or rather, banks were forced to stop making women have their husbands, or fathers, co-sign for the account.
Anyway, the bottom line here is that whether you're a man or a woman, you need to make sure that the person you're with isn't with you based on your earning potential because we all want a partner in life that wants us for who we are not the money we can provide, or may provide in the future.
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