Social Media isn’t the bad guy…
I have been a user of social media since the early days of Myspace. Those were the days when you could customize the HTML to change the background and really customize your space. You could organize your top friend’s list but one thing that didn’t change from the real world was the drama. Mean spirited social media posts aimed at fellow students. Nasty email messages being circulated; it wasn’t anything any different than those nasty notes getting passed in school or those vicious rumors being spread behind your back.
Fast forward 14 years, and I see the same things on social media
and the internet as I do in real life and the only real difference is that when
people say horrible things on the internet, there are vastly more people there
to co-sign on the nastiness. Example: A girl posts a selfie and a man posts a nasty
comment about it. Other men who agree with the comment can like and/or comment
with the original comment whereas in public if a man should be so bold as to
say something nasty to a woman about her looks, there may not be anyone who
will jump in and add to the insulting behavior but when you’re online and you
see 100 likes on a negative comment, it seems worse. The actuality is that
those men don’t just exist on the internet they exist in real life too so to
think that the internet or social media is what makes people mean is flawed logic.
The way I see it, social media and internet are like alcohol.
People get drunk and do things they wouldn’t normally do because alcohol gives
them “liquid courage”, as they say, and it makes them act out of character but
really what it does is it lowers inhibitions and amplifies parts of your
personality. So if you aren’t normally a talkative person but when you start
drinking you become more talkative, that’s the alcohol lowering your inhibition
and enabling the part of your personality that is talkative to become more prevalent.
The internet and social media work much the same way. People use social media
and the internet for a number of reasons. Some people get on there and pretend
to be someone else because they don’t have the confidence to be that person in
their everyday life. Whatever the reason, good or bad, people are the problem
not social media.
A man that beats his wife when he is drunk can blame alcohol
all he wants but we can’t blame the alcohol because if alcohol were the reason,
more men would be beating their significant others due to alcohol. I won’t say
that alcohol doesn’t help, but like I said if you hit someone when you are
drunk you probably would have done sober under the right circumstances because
people are aren’t violent just don’t turn violent for no reason. If you hit
someone when you are drunk it’s because you had a violent tendency to begin
with and it went unchecked which is why alcohol exacerbates to a point where
violence can/does happen. Same with the internet. We can blame the internet for
their being crappy people, if that were the case there would be far more crappy
people, but instead, the internet just puts a microscope to all the nastiness
in the world and when you spend large amounts of time on social media and the internet,
you will start to feel as thought it just because the internet because when you
go out in public and walk through Target, the man that would comment negatively
on a large woman’s post is only thinking it/tweeting it and not saying it out
loud, so you don’t hear it or see which makes you feel as though it’s not
happening in real life, but it is.
I think people want to blame social media, the internet, and
everything under the sun for people being crappy but the truth is that some
people are just crappy human beings and the only thing we can do is work as a
society to encourage social mannerisms that allow people to live in dignity in
the real world and in the virtual world.
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